As some of you have heard, I am writing my second memoir about how the sacred and the secular co-exist. Most of the time I’m having a good time writing though occasionally I feel stuck which my writer friends tell me is normal.
I’ve started thinking about a title. I want it to be catchy and explain what I learned each month during my year-long termination process. My plan is for this to be a book that would make sense to a reader even without reading Fear, Folly & Freud: A Psychotherapist in Psychoanalysis
Sometimes I scratch my head when thinking about a new title. I look at the titles of other people’s books. My favorite title so far: Aging for Beginners by Ezra Bayda. Isn’t that a great title?
It’s also a good book! I am learning as I’m reading it that some of my fears about aging are shared by others and are normal.
Bayda writes that when he was younger and feeling like a beginner in life, he coined the phrase, “the anxious quiver of being” to describe how his anxiety and confusion felt. When I entered Freudian psychoanalysis in 2007 I wish I would have had those words to describe how I was feeling as they fit for how I felt.
Now, years later, Bayda writes that he is feeling like a beginner again – but this time about the process of aging. Being closer to 76 than 75, I’m feeling like a beginner about aging too.
I am trying to remember the perks of being a beginner. Ideally being a beginner means that you don’t expect yourself to know all the answers and that when you need help, you ask for it. I want to remember the excitement of starting something new that is also part of the beginning phase of any project – even aging.
Are there places in your life that it might be helpful to you to think of yourself as a beginner?