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| Gift #1 Yes, the snow is a gift to me – a good snow storm and slick roads lend themselves to hours, if not days, sitting before the fire. Right now, I cherish the gift of solitude. Alone time provides space to stay with the grief for my friend Jo. When someone important to us dies, it takes time to let go of the things in us that will have to die. |
Gift #2
The quote below arrived in my inbox this morning from #3 son. He found it underlined in my Bell Hooks book. Perhaps it explains my desire for fire:
“And its deepest sense, grief is a burning of the heart, an intense heat that gives us solace and release. When we deny the full expression of our grief , it lays like a weight on our hearts, causing emotional pain and physical ailments.”
Gift #3
Later today a good friend sent me the following quote which I thought was very wise and I wanted to share:
“There is a difference between taking something too seriously and being passionate about something. When you are too serious you repel others. When you are passionate, your joy and enthusiasm are contagious.” (Author: Kathy Keats)
What gifts did you receive today? I am very thankful – as I finish this post it is beginning to snow!
Thank you for exploring the mystery – Nicky Mendenhall
4 comments
1. Slept in until 11 a.m. with Bailey my cuddling 78 pound dog. She is the best girl!
2. Enjoyed talking with my oldest son, he shared some of the things my three son had done as kids – we clarified and laughed so hard. I say thank you God that I didn't know all these things earlier!
3. My foot is healing very well after my surgery and is feeling very good – I do have to work on balance!
Be blessed,
Margie
Hi Margie – I like how you took my model of three for your reply.
Glad to hear that your foot is healing. Thanks for letting me know.
Grieving
As a Gift of Love
Dear Nicky,
I have lost many exceptional people in my life that I loved, at the time I was stunned and couldn’t imagine life without them, and I felt lost. As time passed I begin to realize they were no longer with me in the physical sense but I could connected mentally and emotionally. I went throw my grief process it seemed to toss my thoughts and emotions were all over the place.
But once I did calm down, I begin to think about this person and take into account – who they were, what they did that made them so special, remember our time together, what did I admirer about them throughout their life or at the end of their life.
I what to embrace some of their goodness and wisdom so I will be a better human being. I hope by sharing the past I help make my life more meaningful and share the goodness and bravery of those I loved and pass that on to my family and in my teaching.
I want to say thank you for sharing your experience with your close friend JOY and sharing part of your process with her death. May you celebrate the love you shared with your dear friend? I will never think of a black bird and not think of JOY and you!
My great respect and love for your courage,
Margie
Margie – I love how you used JOY for the name of my friend; very appropriate for Jo who brought me much JOY!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom about the grief process. Much appreciated.
Nicky
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