If you answer yes to these questions (or similar questions), slow your breathing. Pay attention to your experience as you savor the following quote:
This beautiful statement, by Leonard Koren author of wabi-sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets & Philosophers, describes the essence of wabi-sabi.
My answer, as you probably have guessed, is yes to both questions.
I think Koren might agree that our difficulty letting go and trusting the grief process is because when we encounter death (whether our own physical death or the death of an old internal pattern or the death of an other), we are shown the blessings and gifts we have been given in new ways. What we are letting go of is what has helped us survive.
Losing autumn’s beauty to ice and bitter cold. Losing a twenty-year relationship that has had its share of fierce interpersonal storms while offering a rare type of intimacy. These two losses might plunge me into depression.
Instead I hope to choose the difficult but healing feelings of grief. and invite them into my body so I can feel them and not run away or press them down unprocessed.
As the grief process continues, I want to stay present and aware.
How do you handle loss? What have been your experiences with grief? Is it easy for you to let go? Share your thoughts in the comments section. You can find it here: www.NickyMendenhall.blogspot.com