“When you find a way to quiet the fear-driven brain, what emerges quite spontaneously are the attachment circuits.”*
The above statement, by neurofeedback specialist Sebern Fisher, MA, reminded me of our recent series on attachment. Our circuits connect us.
Fisher believes the brains of people who have had terrible childhoods are dysregulated. If you have a highly dysfunctional childhood, you will have a dysregulated brain.
It is difficult to regulate our brains. Now we know about plasticity which means our circuits can change.
“We are social creatures; we are meant to relate to one another.”*
We need to keep in mind if our nervous system is highly aroused, relationships will not be very successful. Our challenge is to learn to self-regulate our own brain. It is usually a mistake to try and regulate someone else’s brain
“Probably one of the reasons that we go to the ocean, is that it induces theta – it entrains the brain toward theta, which feels very dreamy and drifty.”*
Can you tell when your nervous system is agitated? What happens to your relationships when this occurs? Do you feel like a social creature? What calms you down? Please reply to this email or click on www.nickymendenhall.blogspot.com and leave a comment.
Thanks for using your brain for exploring the mystery –
Nicky Mendenhall
*Sebern Fisher, MA, interviewed by Ruth Buczynski, PhD, for NICABM.
Image is collage representing dysregulated brains, mine included.